Speaking up against violence can be tricky and varies depending on the situation.
To show you are against violence, you can:
Make your concern known. “Hey mate, that’s sexist and I don’t think it’s funny.” “I think those words are really hurtful.” Refrain from laughing when you’re expected to.
Personalise the violence or injustice. Bring it home. “What if that was your sister / daughter / mother?” “I hope no one ever talks about you like that.”
Remind him that she has feelings and rights. “Just like your mum or your sister, she has the right to be treated with respect.”
Ask for an explanation. “What are you doing?” “What are you saying?”
Remind him of his ‘best self’. “Come on mate, you are better than that."
Use your friendship. “Hey mate… as your friend I’ve gotta tell you that getting a girl drunk to have sex with her isn’t cool, and could get you in a lot of trouble. Don’t do it.”
Invite group pressure. “I don’t feel good about this. Does anyone else feel uncomfortable too?"
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